Marriage brings two people together and binds them in a sacred marriage that will endure for the rest of their lives. Being married entails being dedicated to both happy and sad times, as well as having a shared perspective that will help the couple get through any ordeal. The husband and wife, on the other hand, are indeed two distinct individuals. Even though marriage has united them, they are both two unique people with distinct personalities and temperaments. Misunderstandings and disagreements are unavoidable. God, thankfully, is the creator of love and marriage. As a result, His word – the Bible – should instruct us about what to do in the event of imminent marital conflict.
So, how do we resolve conflicts according to the Bible?
Have the right attitude.
We also believe that disputes and misunderstandings are unavoidable blunders in marital or other relationships. However, we always overlook the fact that trials are designed to refine us. To reveal our sins and purge impurities from our hearts. Suffering results from conflicts, and suffering leads to resilience. What is written in Romans 5:3-5 can be remembered. – Not only this, but we also rejoice in sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance, character, and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint, because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts through the Holy Spirit who was given to us.
Take a seat and talk it over.
It’s understandable that you’d want to stay away from each other during a fight. Conflicts, on the other hand, are not resolved by remaining passive and ignoring the problem. In reality, if you let a conflict’s seed fester and grow, there’s a good chance you won’t be able to weed it out. It is preferable to address any problem at the most fundamental stage. Allowing it to fester would just widen the gap between you and your partner. What Matthew 18:15 says can be considered. — “If your brother sins, go and show him his fault when the two of you are alone. If he listens to you, you have regained your brother.
If one-on-one isn’t working, consider enlisting the help of a counselor.
It’s difficult to listen to reason when you’re angry or upset, particularly if it comes from the person who made you feel that way. Enlisting the assistance of someone with a neutral viewpoint will assist the couple in mediation and reaching a reasonable solution that will eventually address the problem. It is, however, important that you choose your counsel. It is preferable if they are a married couple who follow the direction of Christlikeness together. What is written in Proverbs 11:14 can be considered — When there is no guidance a nation falls, but there is success in the abundance of counselors.
Go back to square one – Love.
To confront conflict with anger and a proud heart is like fanning the flame that will one day consume the marriage. Instead, let love and gentleness prevail. A calm mind can think of a resolution but a mind filled with rage will only lead to ruin. Always remember what is written in 1 Peter 4:8 — Love covers a multitude of sins.
